What is ADHD coaching?

ADHD coaching provides practical support, tools, and accountability to help manage executive functioning, emotional regulation, and daily challenges — especially for late-diagnosed adults.

Do I need a diagnosis to work with you?

No. I work with diagnosed, self-identified, and questioning clients. If you relate to the challenges, you’re welcome here.

What’s the difference between therapy and coaching?

Therapy focuses on healing and mental health. Coaching focuses on goals, action, and sustainable change. I work alongside therapy, not instead of it.

What is ADHD coaching?

ADHD coaching offers structured, practical support to help you manage executive functioning, emotional regulation, and life’s daily demands. It’s focused on action, not just awareness — helping you build systems that work with your brain.

Do I need a formal diagnosis to work with you?

No diagnosis needed. I work with diagnosed, self-identified, and questioning clients. If you're neurodivergent — or think you might be — you're welcome here.

What’s the difference between coaching and therapy?

Therapy often looks to the past to heal. Coaching helps you look ahead — supporting motivation, boundaries, planning, and burnout recovery. Coaching can complement therapy, but it isn’t a replacement.

Who do you work with?

I specialise in supporting neurodivergent adults — especially parents, professionals, and business owners — who feel overwhelmed or stuck. If you're juggling too much and need sustainable support, I can help.

What happens in a discovery call?

It’s a free 45-minute session to explore what’s not working and where you need support. No pressure, no sales tactics — just a chance to see if coaching feels right for you.

What ADHD Feels Like in Women Who Mask: My ADHD Isn’t Quiet

Sarah Hardy
Jun 20
2 min read

If you're searching “Do I have ADHD as a woman?” or wondering why your brain feels so noisy when no one else seems to notice, you're not alone.

ADHD in adult women is often misunderstood. It’s not always hyperactive in the way we expect. But it’s also not always quiet.

As a woman with ADHD, I lived for nearly 35 years undiagnosed and while I looked calm, I felt like I was internally screaming.

Let’s talk about the truth behind ADHD in women, especially the kind that flies under the radar.

Why ADHD in Women Often Goes Unnoticed

Search for "signs of ADHD in boys vs girls" and you’ll find a wave of content comparing boys’ outward hyperactivity to girls’ inward daydreaming. But this comparison doesn’t tell the whole story and it definitely doesn’t help women who feel like their ADHD is anything but quiet.

According to the DSM-5, ADHD is diagnosed in three presentations:

Inattentive
Hyperactive-Impulsive
Combined

Women tend to be diagnosed later and more often with inattentive ADHD but the internal experience can be relentless, loud, and emotionally draining.

My ADHD Was Loud, You Just Couldn’t See It

Here’s what wasn’t visible from the outside:

Racing thoughts at bedtime
Emotional reactivity I couldn’t explain
Paralysis over starting tasks
Messy systems, missed deadlines, and shame
Chronic guilt and burnout from masking

My ADHD wasn’t quiet, it was internal chaos. And if you're nodding right now, you might relate more to this version of ADHD than the childhood stereotypes.

What Are the Signs of ADHD in Adult Women?

These are common (and often missed) signs:

Feeling like your brain never stops
Struggling with time blindness or disorganisation
Emotional sensitivity or rejection sensitivity (RSD)
Overwhelm with day-to-day tasks
Burnout from trying to "keep up"

Many women say, “I didn’t look like I had ADHD, but I always felt different.” If that sounds familiar, you're not imagining it.

ADHD Coaching for Women: Why It Helps

Late-diagnosed women with ADHD often come to me feeling exhausted, frustrated, and unsure how to move forward.

They don’t need more productivity hacks — they need:

Clarity around how their brain works
Compassion for the years they masked
Coaching to build systems that actually work for them

As an ADHD coach who is also late-diagnosed and neurodivergent, I support women to:

Understand their unique version of ADHD
Let go of outdated labels and shame
Build a plan that works to your strengths

You Don’t Have to Do This Alone

You’ve made it this far masking, managing, and overthinking. But real change starts when you understand your brain and stop trying to fix it.

Book a free discovery call today

Let’s find strategies that match the way you work. Your ADHD doesn’t have to stay invisible or misunderstood.

Further Reading & References

Hinshaw, S. et al. (2022) ADHD in Girls and Women: A Call to Action. Journal of Clinical Child & Adolescent Psychology.
Quinn, P. & Madhoo, M. (2014). A Review of ADHD in Women and Girls. The Primary Care Companion for CNS Disorders.
Gershon, J. (2002). A Meta-Analysis of Gender Differences in ADHD. Journal of Attention Disorders.