Let Them. A Poem for the Overthinkers, the People-Pleasers, and the Women Who’ve Had Enough
- Sarah Hardy
- 2 days ago
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For the Women Who Overthink Everything . This One’s for You.
If you’ve ever left a conversation replaying every word…
If you’ve second-guessed your outfit, your tone, your laugh, your choices…
If you’ve apologised for simply existing…
You’re not alone.
This poem, written by Sarah Hardy (ADHD & Neurodivergent Coach), is for every woman who’s exhausted by the mental gymnastics of trying to be liked, accepted, and understood.
You don’t have to keep doing it. You don’t have to shrink. You don’t have to convince anyone of your goodness.
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Let Them By SJHardyPoetry
Let Them
This is your permission.
Not to justify.
Not to explain.
Not to carry the weight of perceived judgement.
Because maybe it’s not even them.
Maybe it never was.
Maybe it’s the story you’ve been taught to tell yourself
before they get even get chance to.
The real burden isn’t their opinion
It’s the endless loop
of reassuring yourself
you’re not rude, odd, or too much.
That’s what takes up the space.
That’s what exhausts you.
That’s what we’re beginning to unlearn.
So, when you stand a little taller, shoulders back,
trying to unlearn years of shrinking,
and worry they think you’re showing off
let them.
When you wear earplugs in the pool,
because noise floods your brain,
and you feel weird before anyone even looks
let them.
When your recall fails, again,
and you forget their name,
then spiral believing they must think you’re rude
let them.
This is the work now.
Breaking the cycle
of constant self-defence
against imagined judgment and shame.
Let them misread you.
Let them misunderstand.
Let them think what they want.
Or more likely
let go of the part of you
that assumes they’re thinking anything at all.
You are not here
to hold space for perceived judgement.
You are here to protect your peace.
To stop the spiral.
To breathe.
So, Let them.
Coaching Can Help You Let Go of the Fear of Judgement
I’m Sarah. A coach who gets it. Because I’ve been the woman stuck in the overthinking spiral too. Now I help others break free from it.
What we work on in coaching:
Build self-trust so you don’t need external validation
Challenge the story that you’re “too much”
Create tools to stop spiralling after every conversation
Ready to break the cycle?
If you’re tired of explaining yourself, of hiding who you are, of worrying what they think… and are ready to just let them Book a free discovery session today.
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